First of all, I’m on here because I just discovered by husband cheating…again. So, I’m not sure if that make me knowledgeable or a dumbass? Anyway, I believe you are correct when you say there is something broken in them. I know that doesn’t stop us from wondering why we weren’t good enough, what did we do wrong, what could I have done…

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Wow! I think you both have a lot of growing up to do. While I’m not a proponent of separation/divorce, I suggest it for you and your spouse. Way too much baggage. Not healthy for your children. Separate, focus on growing as individuals. Become healthy and whole INDIVIDUALS. Otherwise, what’s the point? What’s currently taking place isn’t…

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Im going to lay out the facts.

Long story short. I have cheated on my spouse with 3 different people throughout my marriage. 1st one, one night stand, 2nd one hubby pushes for hotwife after the hotwife i made the decision to cheat afterwards I understand its my choice my fault. 3rd one I deliberately did it.

In the beginning I tired to tell…

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Far too many issues to deal with, honestly. I’m assuming you are young. I am old(er) and wiser. Addiction. Alcoholism. Porn. Cheating. That’s a lot to unpack. Childhood issues, too, I’m assuming.

Sure you love him. But in the end, an addict doesn’t even love themselves. Therefore, they can’t truly love others.

Ultimately, it’s your choice. But,…

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My husband is an addict, he has been a binge alcoholic for many years but had recently got sober. He was sober for about 11 months and then his friend died which threw him into a tail spin of depression. He started getting addicted to porn and would be in the man cave for hours or even days. Then he started going to strip clubs in the middle…

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I’m sorry for your pain. It sounds like your (ex?) husband isn’t giving you the assurances you need. Cheating is such a mindf#$k that hijacks one’s confidence and emotional stability. I had always thought of myself as a confident, strong willed woman. Enter a 7 year affair with one of my close friends and I am reduced to a rag of a person. …

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Vent away! October sucks for me, too. It’s the month my “husband” flew to Australia to meet his slutty mistress.

It’s been 7 years since he made that choice. Hard to believe.

After 7 years, I still hate October.. However, I’m doing really well. I hope each year gets easier for you, too.

Your friend may just have high moral standards or has been cheated on, so she knows how it feels. I think you need to figure out why you cheat. It could be that you just need that validation that you are wanted by someone. If you like sleeping with a lot of people then try not to get into a relationship with anyone and if you do, then leave…

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I just found out that the husband I trusted for 25 years has been talking to another woman on a secret phone for the past 3.5 years. He also has never given me any reason to think he would step out of our marriage. He denies, denies, denies and turns the argument back around on me. Our daughter says he is a narcissist, which I am thinking that…

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I found out this year my husband who has always put me on a pedestal and has never gave me a reason to doubt cheated on me after i gave birth and maybe before with his coworker who is 23 years old. When i confronted him he denied it and instead of taking accountability and apologizing to me since we have 2 kids and have been married for 9 years…

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Tomorrow will be 3 years since discovery. Three years of wondering why? Three years of constant second guessing myself and wondering why I wasn’t enough. I know, it had nothing to do with me. It was him, something was broken. Or is that just a dumbass excuse?? We are all a little broke but we choose to stay faithful. He still has no idea why?…

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I don’t know if there are any moms or dads on here that are struggling with dealing with a daughter-in-law or a son-in-law cheating on your son or daughter. I’m really struggling with this situation and just looking for some answers on how to navigate this. My son recently found out his wife is having an “emotional affair” with another…

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Yuck. Your situation does not sound ideal. You didn’t ask for advice, but nix the “new relationship” avenue. You need to focus on YOU. Betrayal and a bad marriage harm one’s psych. Heal yourself.

Put yourself first. You won’t regret it!

Can you find a room to rent somewhere? It will be liberating for you. Something to call your own.

You can’t…

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